Need wedding advice

[OakLeaf]

Honestly, if she hasn't asked you or your husband to contribute to the wedding, I think you're putting the expectations onto yourself. Time to maybe step back from the emotions? Or have things always been done the "traditional" way in your family, so that you would feel judged by other family members if you didn't?

When my first husband and I had our "hippie wedding" it never occurred to either of us to ask my parents to contribute (and it's been a long time ago, but I don't remember them offering, though they did give us a generous cash gift - and if they did offer/had offered, we would've declined - we had the wedding we could afford and wanted). I was 23 and starting my second year of law school, he was older and had already graduated.