Need wedding advice

[jessmarimba]

I don't know, that just seems like an awkward situation. I'm not sure how close you and the step-daughter are (did you marry her dad when she was younger? Or after she was an adult?) but I don't see my dad's wife being the one to make any decisions about what he gives or doesn't give his kids. But they married after we were adults and we aren't close to her at all. Weren't even invited to the wedding, actually. Dad decides what to give us for what occasions, and she decorates the envelope or the wrapping paper. Not trying to say that you're pushing outside of your boundaries or anything!! Just that I don't know enough about the situation to advise one way or the other. I guess most guys aren't interested in wedding planning in the slightest but I find it odd that her dad isn't helping in the decision.

Sorry apparently can't read when I'm trying to keep the cat out of the soup. Just noticed you married when she was an older teen. Did she stay primarily with her mom? I'd say a small gift but you aren't obligated to pay for any of the wedding unless her dad really wanted to, and it doesn't sound like he does.