Dear So and So

[Crankin]

We both tried talking to him once, quite awhile ago, after his wedding reception, with happened about 9 months after the wedding. He told us that we have done nothing and that we were nuts to think he was mad in any way.
But, things have changed a bit. I really worry about her, as her dad has significant bipolar disorder and she seems a bit ah, moody.
We are definitely going to talk to him when he is here next month; I know he still loves us, which is what is important, but I can't compete against her family, which is big, loud, and other things which I think, he wanted as a kid, as opposed to us.

[indysteel]

We both tried talking to him once, quite awhile ago, after his wedding reception, with happened about 9 months after the wedding. He told us that we have done nothing and that we were nuts to think he was mad in any way.
But, things have changed a bit. I really worry about her, as her dad has significant bipolar disorder and she seems a bit ah, moody.
We are definitely going to talk to him when he is here next month; I know he still loves us, which is what is important, but I can't compete against her family, which is big, loud, and other things which I think, he wanted as a kid, as opposed to us.

I'm sorry to hear that, especially to the extent mood disorders have a strong genetic component. I hope your visit with him goes well.

As I've mentioned a number of times, my own family of origin leaves a lot to be desired--although my parents have thankfully gotten easier to deal with over the last few years. I desperately hoped to marry into a more functional and happy family. While my husband is, thankfully, a functional and happy person, his parents aren't and there isn't much in the way of an extended family either. But, I'm not going to let that ruin my holidays! I think one of the reasons I'm so careful to lay some boundaries with my in-laws is that I feel a very strong need to create my own happiness around the holidays--something I was deprived of for so long.

But that said, I'm not trying to hurt them unecessarily either. I do think there are plenty of perfectly acceptable compromises that will meet most of our needs most of the time. To the extent they would rather look at the bleak side of things, that's their decision. I'm trying really hard not to feel compelled to fix all of their feelings.

And maybe I'm not giving them enough credit. Maybe they're happier than they appear. I dunno. What I do know is that one of my New Year's resolutions is to worry less (and complain less) about them.

[shootingstar]

It's been over 10 years since I've spent Christmas with my birth family, parents and siblings since I've lived in a totally different province far away.

I've contemplated visiting at Christmas but have concluded each time that several family members are too busy themselves around CHristmas with seeing their in-laws, etc. and with their young children. I wouldn't be comfortable staying with them during that time vs. ie. summer or Thanksgiving time.

[indysteel]

Dear Coworker: Can you please explain why you chose not to close the stall door before using our public bathroom? I mean, you're not the first person I've ever seen pee, but jeez. They put doors on the stalls for a reason. How strange to walk into the restroom to see somebody openly sitting on a john.

Lordy, the public restroom at my office has turned into something out of the Twilight Zone.

[Blueberry]

Lordy, the public restroom at my office has turned into something out of the Twilight Zone.

I think it needs an exorcist

[Catrin]

...
Lordy, the public restroom at my office has turned into something out of the Twilight Zone.

Cue the Twilight Zone music...

Hope things improve here Indy, you've recently shared other issues with your workplace restroom....

[indysteel]

Cue the Twilight Zone music...

Hope things improve here Indy, you've recently shared other issues with your workplace restroom....

They should improve. We have been in temporary quarters on a different floor since October while our regular office space was renovated. We move back on January 10. I think some of weirder people with whom I currently share a restroom will no longer be an issue. Praise be.

[Catrin]

They should improve. We have been in temporary quarters on a different floor since October while our regular office space was renovated. We move back on January 10. I think some of weirder people with whom I currently share a restroom will no longer be an issue. Praise be.

I hope so for you and your co-workers sake! Makes me quite thankful for our boring restroom...

[PamNY]

Lordy, the public restroom at my office has turned into something out of the Twilight Zone.

Maybe you should start a blog.

[tangentgirl]

Maybe you should start a blog.

A video blog.

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<whine> Dear Back - why do you hurt? And why do you hurt in such a weird spot where you never hurt before? This is so infuriating. Quit it, I would like to concentrate on other stuff now. Owwww. </whine>

[Biciclista]

My company restroom is SO boring. The best high drama we have is who gets stuck in the stall with the crooked seat!

[ultraviolet]

Dear crazy woman,

I told you in the most diplomatic way possible that I found your stalking behavior disturbing. I asked you nicely to stop. The proper response to my request was not to send me two more emails in rapid succession--first to apologize and say your were going to leave me alone, and then a follow-up to try to explain your behavior.

As I told you, I have no desire to be part of any drama you're manufacturing. I don't know you. I don't want to know you. No, I will not meet you for coffee...or any other "beverage of (my) choosing."

It's unfortunate that you misinterpreted your friendship with my ex-boyfriend as something more than it was (if it's any consolation, you're not the first woman to trip into that crevasse), but it's really not my problem. I will not be your counselor. And since I am still friends with him, and we do a lot of work with each other, I most definitely will not be supplying you with any information or energy to help fuel your obsession with him.

And for the record, the old blog of mine that you found where you thought I was describing the beginnings of my relationship with him was in fact not about him at all. I know you think you see all kinds of similarities, but they simply are not there.

Now, leave me alone.

Feeling more than a little disturbed,
Me.

[Owlie]

Dear self:
Go to bed.