You know, I guess my DIL has decided she doesn't want to share my son (the one who lives in CA) for the holidays. He has been incognito for about a week and *I know* they are in Philly, for the holidays. I don't begrudge her wanting to celebrate Christmas with her family, and Chanukah is not that important of a holiday, but it is definitely the case that I guess he can't fight her on this, because he is close enough to visit. They live in San Diego and we only see him once a year, maybe twice. This whole thing has upset my DH so much; after we went there in May, she treated us like crap and I could tell my son knows it. The only reason I haven't said anything is that he is coming to Quantico for 2 months of training and he will come here when he is DC, and we will also go down there. Frankly, I *am* looking forward to seeing him alone.
Of course, I only have a vague, Facebook suspicion of where he is (from her, DS is not on it), but it is possible that they are on vacation somewhere else. However, i will never insist on anything. I had the in-laws from hell and I swore long ago I wouldn't be like that.
I dread the first kid.