Quote Originally Posted by bmccasland View Post
It's Dad that's the problem. This is a man that would tell me that if he wanted my opionion, he'd tell me what it is. Why yes, he is retired military. I suppose I'll word my thank you note carefully - there was also a check to me in the same card, so I can't ignore the whole thing.
If your dad has this type of personality, all you can do is roll your eyes and let it go as if they'd given you an ugly vase or some other gift you can't use. It was kind of him to also send you a check in addition. I agree with the poster who suggested that you tell him you used that check for a donation to your own choice of charity.

I do get your concern about having your name on it and wanting to support a charity of your own preference. Perhaps you can tactfully mention a charity or two several times over the course of the year when you talk with them and hope they get the hint if this is to be a regular holiday tradition for them. If not, and if your father is indeed set in his ways, he's going to do what he wants to do and there's no use in getting upset about it. Just roll with it.