Strange situation need advice please.

[spokewench]

Sorry, Brandi - she sounds like a toxic person. She is just trying to make herself feel better, certainly not you, and most probably not your Dad.

[redrhodie]

It sounds like she's very controlling and manipulative. I would not return her call. You owe her nothing. Delete the message and move on. Another beer is in order!

[Brandi]

It is amazing how it did make me feel a little cr*appy. I started 2nd guessing myself. "Am I a bad person"?
But I snapped out of it I know better. The head game she is trying to play with me I realize is for he own. I really wanted to call her back and yell at her "YOU DON'T KNOW ME, AND DON"T ASSUME I AM ANYthING"! Then I realized it would be a waste of my energy.
She did say he was dyeing of cancer. And that he had on Monday last week a "Brain thing" as she put it. Nice huh?
Ok done ranting, have to take all 3 cats to the vet for a check up early this morning. Good distraction you know.

[Blueberry]

Can you mute the phone/machine and have your partner screen the calls/messages. You might rather hear the information filtered - maybe it would be less stressful (and you could at least not have good times interrupted by her). We use mute/do not disturb/phones off a lot around here.

[ny biker]

This makes me think of the Cheez-It commercial with the immature cheese.

La la la la - I can't HEAR you!!! La la la la - I can't HEAR you!!!

If she leaves another message, do that really loud while picturing a wheel of cheddar cheese.

She knows the version of the story that he told her. You know the one that you actually lived. It is important that you come to terms with it, in your own way, for the sake of your own emotional well-being. But you don't owe them anything.

(p.s. What do you call a cheese that isn't yours?? NACHO CHEESE!!!)

[Trek420]

If she leaves another message, do that really loud while picturing a wheel of cheddar cheese.

Or in your best Ernestine the Operator voice "If you'd like to make a call please hang up and dial again. Beeeeeeeeeeep ..."

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2UBRcZDHxa8

[Brandi]

We have decided if she calls back my dh is going to tell her to stop calling and to leave us alone and he is going to add it is none of her business and to not assume she knows me because she doesn't. I don't like her calling and wondering if every time the phone rings if it is her. I would mute it but it is our business line. Like I said before glad she doesn't have my cell #!

[PamNY]

Brandi, I've been reading and not posting -- you have gotten good advice, and you clearly are a smart person with a good heart.

Looking back at times when I stood up for myself with difficult family members, I don't regret it. For what it's worth, I think you are on the right path.

Sending you warm wishes and hugs.

[Brandi]

Thank you!

[Irulan]

Caller ID lets you know when to not pick up.