Coming from an abusive upbringing you made the best decision you could have possibly made. No man is worth it. When I met my dh I asked him right off "do you it women and think you are always right?"He said no and no! He understands why now. But I told him if either of these things come up even once there will be no second chances. He is alloud to be right every once in awhile.
I know another women who was in the same shoes who just got divorced from her husband of 18 years. After two years she now is totally independent and things are really improving in her life. She does go to therapy but she has a job and her own friends now and her self worth has grown a lot. The same will happen for you!
Thank you for sharing such an intimate part of your life with us. I hope it is helping!