Dear So and So

[OakLeaf]

woot Roxy! Good for you.

Mimi, that's good news on your front too. My dad is so isolated by his own paranoid refusal to have a computer or a cell phone at the nursing facility. It's not like they're destitute or without homeowners' insurance, but he'd rather isolate himself than risk theft. So glad Don is feeling well enough to re-join the virtual world.

[channlluv]

Well, she said, "You HAVE to change your eating habits..." and I held my hand up and said, "I need to stop you right there and let you know that I eat pretty close to a South Beach Phase II diet - clean and all that, organic veggies, lean meats, Greek yogurt, no cheese, no sugar, when I eat bread it's sprouted grain. I mean, I'm not super strict about it, but a lot of people look at me and make assumptions -- even the personal trainer here was telling me I should stop eating white potatoes and stuff, and while I do eat them on occasion, it's rare, like, two or three times a year I'll have potato salad at a picnic or something...I'm just saying, diet's not the problem."

Or something close to that. It just irked me that this woman I don't know felt it was okay to jump into a private conversation with nutrition advice because of how I look. And she had that "I know better than you" tone. I think that's what bugged me enough to interrupt her.

I get lectured a lot. Usually be well-meaning friends. This woman I don't know. She just butted into a private conversation. Ticked me off.

Roxy

[Trek420]

This woman I don't know. She just butted into a private conversation. Ticked me off.

Roxy

The nerve of her and good for you

Alternate answers:

"That's nice. How many triathlons have you done? 0? Would "none" be close to accurate?" or .....

"Interesting. And the longest ride you've done after an hour and a half class at the gym lately you'd typically ride exactly how far?" or ....

My personal favorite "Yeah I'm sturdy. My food plan is carefully crafted for training for my 3rd degree black belt. Been eating and training that way since oh, 1980. Do the math. You don't have a problem with that, right? "

[channlluv]

I like your answers better than mine, Trek.

[Trek420]

Well, I had all day to think of them. You did fine. Feel free to use them next time and any other snappy answers to stupid assumptions that TE gals come up with.

[indysteel]

You were right to be ticked off. Good for you for asserting yourself. You were more polite than I would have been! I'm truly sorry you have to desk with this.

[Blueberry]

I have used the answer: "My doctor doesn't have a problem with my [diet, riding my bike long distances despite being overweight, running, swimming - whatever someone is lecturing me on], why do you? Do you have an MD?"

[marni]

Dear Lady at the Y:

I hope I didn't offend you too much when I stopped your nutrition lecture mid-sentence, but I was talking to the aerobics teacher, not you, and I was asking her about increasing my caloric burn during class, so when you started in about my having to change my eating habits in order to lose weight, and you don't know jack about me or my eating habits, I just had to stop you. And, god, that felt good.

Roxy

two favorite comebacks from my mother and my sister which are family traditions.

From my mother-"I am aware that I am less than some people prefer me to be, but most people are unaware that I am so much more than what they see."

and from my sister- sweet and succinct "I am aware that you have issues, I prefer not to subscribe to them. '

marni

[Biciclista]

i just got told today that "a skinny little thing like me wouldn't understand"

i didn't swear at her. really..

[Blueberry]

Ouch, Mimi!

I have to stop myself from making those judgments sometimes (but thankfully I would never say that out loud!). The women of TE have definitely helped me see different perspectives and to appreciate the differences among us.

Which is a long way of saying - I've always found you to be sensitive. The nerve of her!

[NbyNW]

Roxy, I'm so proud of you for telling that arrogant so-and-so what for!

[Biciclista]

Dear Blueberry
can I swear now? I'm really in the mood now. sitting in a hard chair in the Surgery waiting room.
arghhh.
His surgery went well... they think..

[Blueberry]

I don't see why not!? After the last week/months. Why can't they make those chairs comfortable anyway?

Here's hoping the surgery did go well! (is this a second one to fix the issue that cropped up?). Thinking of you both!

[jobob]

Roxy - way to go!!!

Mimi - Oh I think you're more than entitled to vent. The hard chair in the surgery waiting room won't mind, I bet it had a pretty tough skin. D'oh.

Best wishes to you and The Donald.

[Owlie]

You go, Roxy!
Mimi, you are totally allowed to swear. Good vibes to you and RD.

Dear Starbucks employee:
I really hope that was a mistake, but "bacon and gouda" and "low fat turkey bacon" don't sound at all alike. Is it so hard to understand that someone might actually want the full-fat sandwich? I normally wouldn't care so much, but a) I hate egg whites and b) I use said sandwich as two meals. Egg whites are not nearly so filling.