Honeypie,

I wish you all the luck and happiness you deserve! Your kids too. You're doing the right thing. Please do it carefully, which is not to say slowly! Carefully means doing it fast and having folks around you keeping an eye out. This guy sounds like he can be dangerous.

And if you can get out there and ride from time to time (maybe best in a group), then do that too. I've been lucky with my choice of partner, but had a sociopath for a boss once and spineless wimps in the administration above. Physical exercise does help with stress relief. My exercise at the time was hiking and ... smashing concrete with a sledgehammer. I kid you not. We were lowering the basement floor, had it cut up into squares with a compressor drill, then DH put off clearing it out while I smashed square by square with a sledgehammer. Had some great visualisations going while I did it too.