Dear So and So

[solobiker]

Mimi.. Happy to hear that he is starting to feel a little better and that you had some time to do some cooking. My thoughts continue to be with you and Don.

[Crankin]

Glad to hear that Don is texting and on Facebook, Mimi. Hey, I guess that's the new normal!
Weather was perfect today and I am still coughing. Grrr. I have been reduced to looking at my new bike. Didn't sleep too well either, as one of my 7 year old clients was expressing suicidal thoughts yesterday afternoon, so I had to go into crisis mode, although it was not really a crisis. I called my boss, so someone else knew, and even though I did all of the right things, it kept me up all night.
Tomorrow I am going to the core/weights class in the early AM and will put off any aerobic stuff until Friday. I feel like a tired, sick, and unfit slug.

[channlluv]

Dear Lady at the Y:

I hope I didn't offend you too much when I stopped your nutrition lecture mid-sentence, but I was talking to the aerobics teacher, not you, and I was asking her about increasing my caloric burn during class, so when you started in about my having to change my eating habits in order to lose weight, and you don't know jack about me or my eating habits, I just had to stop you. And, god, that felt good.

Dear Self:

Way to go on doing the hour of step aerobics this morning and following it up with 23 miles on the bike around the lake.

Roxy

[Blueberry]

Yay Roxy!!!!

Good job on the workout, and good job on stopping the meddling person. I get so flipping tired of lectures about my *very good* eating habits.

[channlluv]

Me too. I felt so empowered. Two weeks ago I might have stood there and nodded and gone along and even thanked her, but after the last few days here, the support...I felt empowered to stand up for myself, so thanks, TE!

Roxy

[VeganBikeChick]

WTG, Roxy! Thanks for empowering all of us!

[indysteel]

That's awesome, Roxy. On both counts. So out of curiosity, what did you say to the woman? It might be instructive for the rest of us in dealing with unwanted advice.

[solobiker]

Way to go Roxy!! I always hate it when people assume I want their input/opinion. You Rock!!

[OakLeaf]

woot Roxy! Good for you.

Mimi, that's good news on your front too. My dad is so isolated by his own paranoid refusal to have a computer or a cell phone at the nursing facility. It's not like they're destitute or without homeowners' insurance, but he'd rather isolate himself than risk theft. So glad Don is feeling well enough to re-join the virtual world.

[channlluv]

Well, she said, "You HAVE to change your eating habits..." and I held my hand up and said, "I need to stop you right there and let you know that I eat pretty close to a South Beach Phase II diet - clean and all that, organic veggies, lean meats, Greek yogurt, no cheese, no sugar, when I eat bread it's sprouted grain. I mean, I'm not super strict about it, but a lot of people look at me and make assumptions -- even the personal trainer here was telling me I should stop eating white potatoes and stuff, and while I do eat them on occasion, it's rare, like, two or three times a year I'll have potato salad at a picnic or something...I'm just saying, diet's not the problem."

Or something close to that. It just irked me that this woman I don't know felt it was okay to jump into a private conversation with nutrition advice because of how I look. And she had that "I know better than you" tone. I think that's what bugged me enough to interrupt her.

I get lectured a lot. Usually be well-meaning friends. This woman I don't know. She just butted into a private conversation. Ticked me off.

Roxy

[Trek420]

This woman I don't know. She just butted into a private conversation. Ticked me off.

Roxy

The nerve of her and good for you

Alternate answers:

"That's nice. How many triathlons have you done? 0? Would "none" be close to accurate?" or .....

"Interesting. And the longest ride you've done after an hour and a half class at the gym lately you'd typically ride exactly how far?" or ....

My personal favorite "Yeah I'm sturdy. My food plan is carefully crafted for training for my 3rd degree black belt. Been eating and training that way since oh, 1980. Do the math. You don't have a problem with that, right? "

[marni]

Dear Lady at the Y:

I hope I didn't offend you too much when I stopped your nutrition lecture mid-sentence, but I was talking to the aerobics teacher, not you, and I was asking her about increasing my caloric burn during class, so when you started in about my having to change my eating habits in order to lose weight, and you don't know jack about me or my eating habits, I just had to stop you. And, god, that felt good.

Roxy

two favorite comebacks from my mother and my sister which are family traditions.

From my mother-"I am aware that I am less than some people prefer me to be, but most people are unaware that I am so much more than what they see."

and from my sister- sweet and succinct "I am aware that you have issues, I prefer not to subscribe to them. '

marni

[Biciclista]

i just got told today that "a skinny little thing like me wouldn't understand"

i didn't swear at her. really..

[Blueberry]

Ouch, Mimi!

I have to stop myself from making those judgments sometimes (but thankfully I would never say that out loud!). The women of TE have definitely helped me see different perspectives and to appreciate the differences among us.

Which is a long way of saying - I've always found you to be sensitive. The nerve of her!

[NbyNW]

Roxy, I'm so proud of you for telling that arrogant so-and-so what for!