Dear So and So

[emily_in_nc]

Jeez Blueberry. What a mess! So sorry you are going through such parent/money issues simultaneously and intertwined. Not a good mix.

[OakLeaf]

Ugh. ((((((Blueberry))))))

[Blueberry]

Thank you all - the venting really does help. Most days I can keep it all in perspective, but some days are harder than others.

We're making changes in our lives that mean we will be OK financially. We're planning to sell our house in the spring (and believe we will be able to), which is a good thing - we're in a different place than we were when we bought it. We have contingency plans on top of contingency plans. But - when things are tight - having those who should be offering support (emotional if not financial) taking advantage of you just gets tough. Particularly when those people refuse to consider making hard decisions that they should be making. I'm an only child with divorced parents, and my parents are crashing and burning at the same time.

[PamNY]

Hugs to you Blueberry. I have to say you sound very level-headed.

[Biciclista]

wow, Blueberry, you sound like the only adult in your family. Please remember to take care of you first. Your parents need to grow up. My mother is getting to the point that she will need help and it's obvious that she's going to fight it off by tooth and nail....

[redrhodie]

Dear Me,

When will you learn to stop worrying? If the thing was as bad as you expected, you would have fixed it and been done. Problem solved. As it turned out, it wasn't even your problem to deal with. So in the end, you wasted all that energy worrying about someone else's problem.


Dear Maillotpois,

"When it's easy, ride hard; when it's hard, ride easy" is the best thing I've ever read. Thank you. I thought about this on my ride, and I think it can be applied to every aspect of life.

[laura*]

Dear squeaky bike:
Ok then, we're not going for a ride today. I feel like a total klutz today - I'll probably break something fixing you. I'm going back to bed with a book.

Dear microclimates:
The forecast was for hot 80's, sunny, an offshore wind, and an extreme forest fire danger. Here in the forest it is cold 60's, 99.9% humidity, and I probably wouldn't be able to set the forest on fire with even a flame thrower. Bah!

[bmccasland]

Dear Knee and opposite Hip,
Yes I stood up for 6 hours at a job site this morning, but do you have to hurt quite so much? Knee, you've been fixed, we did months of PT, still do our exercises, what's up with this??? And why are you getting hip in on the party? A construction site is not exactly the place to sit around. Not my fault there's no place to sit in a truck and monitor the near-water activities. You did get the report from the eyes about the construction equipment barely having room to manouver. WE didn't want to get stuck in the mud.

I want to have a good time at the party this evening, so behave.

[maillotpois]

Dear Maillotpois,

"When it's easy, ride hard; when it's hard, ride easy" is the best thing I've ever read. Thank you. I thought about this on my ride, and I think it can be applied to every aspect of life.

Thanks. It gets me through my double centuries and brevets. Hadn't thought about its broader application, so thank you for that.

[ultraviolet]

Dear neighbor,

I've already interrupted your party once to ask you to turn down your music. If it wakes me up again, I'm calling the police. And since your entire apartment reeks of the pot smoke hanging in the air, I'm guessing that's not going to make for happy times for you or your guests.

Also, you're 41 years old. Maybe it's time to stop hanging out with college aged kids. Just something to think about.

Love,
Your neighbor who has way more connections in your field of work than you realize...another thing to think about, since you'll be out of grad school and on the job hunt in the next year or so.