dealing with breakup fallout

[Catrin]

(((Badger))) everyone is giving good advice, do what you need to do to cut the ties and keep yourself safe. He is doing everything he can think of to manipulate you. Good for you for doing what you needed to do...and be safe. Depending on how obsessive he is, this could go on for a time. Don't be slow to call the cops if you need to!

[alexis_the_tiny]

Congrats on getting out of that relationship. Been there, done that, it's not your job to help him heal. Anything of his is not your responsibility from the day you said "It's over". From now on, the only thing he will hear from you should be "I'm sorry you are upset, please call the crisis hotline/your friend/ your mom/ whatever to talk about it. I will not discuss this with you any more." And yes, even if he threatens suicide. Just, you know, call the police on him if he actually threatens it. Log and record all interactions in case he gets dangerous. Lock all social media accounts. And go on enjoying your life free of him. Hopefully, he gets the message without needing any drastic measures.

[badger]

thanks ladies. I've asked a couple of his friends to "help" him, and they both agree that I've done the right thing because neither of them saw any indication that anything he said about committing to me was ever forthcoming.

Thankfully he's in a different country altogether, so I don't think my physical safety will be too much of an issue. There is a possibility he could just show up, but I'm sure his family and friends will put a stop to that before he does anything like it. The friend did say he's on the mend so hopefully that's true and he'll be over me pretty quickly!