Excellent recommendation, Grits. I was trying to recall that title myself. I read Carolyn Hax's chat at the Washington Post, and suggests that in every type of abusive relationship.

Badger, I'm very glad you're doing well, but at some point I hope you can make an effort to analyze why you stayed so long with an emotionally abusive man. It's important that you come to understand as you move forward in your life.