Dear So and So

[tulip]

Dear Tulip,
Why all of a sudden do you have this overwhelming sense that you've squandered your life? Would you feel this way anyways, even if you had made different choices? Or are your choices that you've made over the decades really the problem? More importantly, how can you get past this to a happier place? Or is this it and happiness is always fleeting and this is the house you built, now live in it?

I suppose it's time to find another therapist; that's a daunting thought.

argh.

[Crankin]

I think we all, periodically feel like this. If we just went through life without reassessing stuff, no one would move forward.
I know that I always seem to be focusing on some future goal. Then when I get there, it feels good for awhile and then I need another goal. It's always been this way. I try to practice what I preach, but it's hard for me to live in the moment. While, I am happy with my life, I wonder how old I have to be to just "live."

[Biciclista]

hi guys. We have had long interviews with 2 out of the 3 doctors. Now I understand. the one doctor is suggesting that surgery might not be advisable because he thinks it won't help. That's actually NOT good news. OTH, the second doctor is very enthusiastic (both are thrilled with D's strength) and thinks that he will benefit from that surgery. and he's the surgeon.
(well, duh) so yet another test to determine whether the surgeon is correct in his assumptions that there is nothing hiding in the shadows that they haven't already seen.
Doctor #1 says he's never seen anyone come through his chemo like D has. ! ! !

[channlluv]

Doctor #1 says he's never seen anyone come through his chemo like D has. ! ! !

Not a lot of husbands have wives as supportive and loving as you, and not just in the last few weeks, but all through your time together.

Roxy

[emily_in_nc]

Mimi,

Hoping for the best for your DH. You are a great partner to him, and that can only help. Stay strong!

[snapdragen]

Mimi - is it possible the first doctor is letting RD's age color his opinion? Meaning, he does not realize that RD is probably in better shape the half of the nation's teenagers, and instead is thinking "feeble older man".

I'm so glad to hear he is doing so well, I know this is a difficult time for you. Take care of yourself.

[Biciclista]

the first Doctor came into d's hospital room while D was pedaling his bike on the trainer and said "I like to see you on your bike". He also knows about the 100k and all the other bike rides that D has done recently. No, they all know how fit he is. He is the one who said "I have never seen anyone come through this chemo as well as you have."
but if you go by the staging rules... that's what he's doing.

[NbyNW]

I love that Don has bike & trainer in his hospital room!

[Biciclista]

I love that Don has bike & trainer in his hospital room!

that's past tense. he's home now, done with chemo ... hopefully forever but who knows.