What would you do differently?

[grey]

I would have stayed in Boca one more year, gotten a job at a grocery store and studied MA full time, like I wanted to - instead of listening to others tell me that if I took a year off I'd never go to college.
Otherwise, I'd change nothing. Everything else is experience, and that's invaluable.

[jelee1311]

I think I'd change very little about my life,good or bad the experiences have made me who I am today. I wish I would have volunteered more,flossed more,not worried about what other people thought about me so much,and sang out loud more. These are things I do todayand a lot of them I owe to my fantastic DD and DH who have given me the love to come into my own. I love the fact that there is so much more I want to and will do with my life, so I don't have time for regrets.

[amwm]

I'd have NEVER married my first husband and I would have divorced him 3-4 years earlier. Since my sons are adopted, I couldv'e been married to anyone to have them in my life.
Except for that, I've really enjoyed my life so far!

[jusdooit]

I think I'd change very little about my life,good or bad the experiences have made me who I am today.

Very little. I could say a different career choice, but what I do now is what inspires me to do something else, not sure that would have happened otherwise. Thankfully I figured out in my late 20's that I am the only person who has to live with every decision I make for the rest of my life, kinda kept me from really caring what anyone else thought.

[macski]

I would have gone on the working holiday that I'd planned when I was at university (work here in Australia for two years after university, then travel and work in Canada for two years). Instead, I gave up the idea because I met and married a man who turned out not to be my soulmate. Oh, and I wouldn't have stayed in teaching so long (or at all, really).

But, like others on here, I'm philosophical about my mistakes and paths not taken - the path you do take is the one that makes you who you are. I'm pretty happy with my life and am now with my soulmate (just a little later than I would have liked).

[Pax]

I would have gone on the working holiday that I'd planned when I was at university (work here in Australia for two years after university, then travel and work in Canada for two years). Instead, I gave up the idea because I met and married a man who turned out not to be my soulmate. Oh, and I wouldn't have stayed in teaching so long (or at all, really).

But, like others on here, I'm philosophical about my mistakes and paths not taken - the path you do take is the one that makes you who you are. I'm pretty happy with my life and am now with my soulmate (just a little later than I would have liked).

Agreed. I posted I would have waited thirty more seconds before going up that ladder; it cost me my career as a firefighter, 30 more seconds and I wouldn't have been in the path of that flashover, wouldn't have had endless knee surgeries to try and repair the damage...and I wouldn't have met my beloved and had the opportunity to spend the last 21 years together. Guess it all balances out the way it's supposed to.

[tytbody]

i just wish I was stronger in my own mind instead of listening to others who said I would not make much money in doing what I wanted to do. Who gives a flying leap about whether you make x amount of dollars. Your happiness is more important.

[Crankin]

My life is really good. But, if I knew then, what I knew now, I would have never stayed with the guy that became DH #1, which would have then meant I never would have gone to 4 colleges, and I never would have broken up with the person I should have stayed with.
Oh, and I never would have wasted that time in the doctoral program I never finished, anyway.

[roadie gal]

I like the person that I am now and wonder if changing something would have made me a different person. The things I'd like to change have more to do with my family - I'd like to make my father not a sociopath - things I couldn't change, than anything to do with my own life.

Job-wise I think I would have been happier going into the Coast Guard rather than being a doctor. But I'm looking from the outside, so who knows?

[limewave]

I wish I would have gotten help for my depression when I was 14 instead of waiting until I was 25. It is not normal to be sad all of the time.

[Mama Coosa]

I would have taken a year off between high school and college.

[tytbody]

I would have taken a year off between high school and college.

Smart choice. More need to do this.

[Roadtrip]

I've had some negative stuff happen throughout my life.

• Alcoholic step-father.
• Mother who was verbally and physically abused by step-father.
• Suicidal mother, whome I found with loaded shotgun and at 11 years old I took the gun from her hands.
• Step father hit me, I again took the gun away from my mother before she used it on the passed out step-father.
• Mother wanted divorce, years after separating, took me along as protection with loaded 45 under my jacket as she met him to discuss-- was all I could do to stand there facing him again, knowing I had the power to end him rght there. He lit a joint and told my mom she still had a nice a$$, never knowing how much I hated him.
• Overcame being an introverted (ok, I'm still a little shy/introverted) youth and was the first in my family to earn a college degree, meeting my DH, and becoming who I am today. Letting go of all the hate in my heart and moving forward Instead of looking back allows me to live a good life that I enjoy very munch.

Would I change anything?!?!

[indysteel]

((((Roadtrip)))). As a child of dysfunctional and abusive parents (who had their own even more dysfunctional and abusive parents), I feel for you.

[tytbody]

and no one knows what we have had to live through. Does it ever ever stop?