Quote Originally Posted by Grog View Post

And, one final note about the "it could have been..." speculations on miscarriages and early labour: women who lose babies are tormented with doubt about whether this or that thing that they did (such as exercise, flying, falling flat on their face after tripping on their shoelaces, taking a fast walk in the summer heat, eating a hotdog) caused their miscarriage. Unfortunately, I know what I'm talking about. But the truth is that miscarriages happen to non-viable pregnancies no matter what we do about them, and if you've kept on living during your pregnancy you're bound to experience some coincidence that will make you wonder "what if...". All that guilt - fueled by the well-meaning comments and concerns of friends and relatives - is really doing a lot more damage than good. Some conversations are much better left to the privacy of one's doctor's office.
Grog, this is very true. The vast majority of miscarriages are due to chromosomal abnormalities or other problems that lead to non-viable embryos. Sometimes bad stuff just happens. Thanks for reminding us.