Quote Originally Posted by Crankin View Post
Dear People on my about to start bike tour,

Please, I don't want to hear about G-d, Mary Kay Cosmetics, or how many races you won this season. Don't tell me your political views, and please don't suggest I join you for drinks at the lunch stop. And hopefully, there won't be any wives doing lap dances on their DH's lap as we listen to the orientation.

I wish DH hadn't googled all of the participants. He thinks it's funny, but now I know too much. And the lap dance thing really did happen when we went to Quebec. As well as the triathletes from Indiana who managed to ruin dinner on my first tour in Vermont by trying to talk to me about pro-life stuff.
Yes, Virginia, you're in the northeast now...
Maybe you ought not not to participate in ridings with others like this if you are already fretting about how miserable you could be, and if it's a sentiment you frequently feel. By developing a negativity (early on or not) it is toxic to you which then might become toxic to others.