Things that have made your day lately!

[indysteel]

My husband. I was single and fiercely independent for so long, that it's taken me a while to get used to the idea that there's this person in my life. Who loves and supports me. A lot.

I spent the better part of Monday having some medical tests done. Because I didn't really need DH to go with me, I had to convince myself that it was okay to want him there for support (what a novel idea, huh?). My tests in total didn't actually take that long, so we otherwise just got to spend some quality time together.

It was a lovely day.

[katluvr]

So I work in a pediatric hospital and do pain management. I was consulted for a family for a child still with post-op pain and not well controlled. I really minimally tweaked the medication regimen but she has had a much better day. I think really most was attitude and timing for her, but they think I did something special. Glad they all had a better day! And makes me feel a bit like I do make a difference (somedays at work we don't feel that way!)
K

[spokewench]

So, I regularly play a lot of tennis and if you think cyclist can be snooty about other cyclists, try tennis players - I've never seen more A type people outside a men's road racing category 3 race!

Anyway, I had a great experience. Went down to Tucson to visit my parents and my sister for the weekend. Took my racquet and some balls to practice my serve on Saturday morning early at 6:30. As I was walking off the court and down the row of other courts, three men asked me if I would like to play with this since their 4th did not show.

I almost didn't say yes cause I thought i might be in over my head, but instead just thought I would go for it. Figured I could bow out if they were really much better than I am. Low and behold, I held my ground, hit great shots and pushed the boys at net. They were really nice guys, great cameraderie (sp?) and I was very competitive with them! Wow, I have impoved lately. It made me feel great, they had a good time, and asked me back when I'm going to be back in town visiting. What a nice and pleasurable experience!

[westtexas]

My husband. I was single and fiercely independent for so long, that it's taken me a while to get used to the idea that there's this person in my life. Who loves and supports me. A lot.

This is me to a T, Indy. I'm trying very hard in my current relationship but it is sometimes hard to want to have someone there for you when for a long time you've relied on yourself and done just fine. Have any secrets for getting to that point?

[indysteel]

This is me to a T, Indy. I'm trying very hard in my current relationship but it is sometimes hard to want to have someone there for you when for a long time you've relied on yourself and done just fine. Have any secrets for getting to that point?

I don't know of I have any real secret. It's more about practice. As for stuff around the house, I've gotten better at asking for help, although quite honestly, I wish he was better at taking a bit more initiative. He's always willing to help when I ask and takes care of things like mowing without prompting, but other stuff--like getting dinner together if I'm running late, not so much.

It's really the emotional stuff that's more of a challenge for me anyway. I try to remember to let my guard down more. I don't have to grin and bear as much as I used to. It helps that we have certain routines that provide a good time for some emotional intimacy. It also helps if you're with someone--and I hope you are--that you trust to be supportive and loving. Even good guys sometimes miss the mark, but when they're pretty dependable, it helps you lean on them a bit more.

Communication is key, too. I have to remember to tell him what I need or want. I struggled with that when we first moved in together. I was trying really hard to keep everything running smoothly around the house and leaving him out of my to do list. I felt like I needed to do it all myself (I'm the planner in our relationship), and that was just unrealistic. So, for a while, we had weekly strategy seesions, until some of it became more routine.

Good luck with your relationship. Just remember that just because you CAN do it on your own, doesn't mean you HAVE to.