Speaking of too much stuff

[Biciclista]

and in the meantime, have him go to the freezer for you a few times .. Then let him know you can't get there from here.

[Jen12]

Maybe organizing things into like piles would help. At the very least it would let you get around, but it also might show him just how many of each thing he has. Then you can set some limits and have him make some choices.

[Brandi]

and in the meantime, have him go to the freezer for you a few times .. Then let him know you can't get there from here.

I like this idea!
My opinion this is just going to get worse! And Exactly when and where is he planning to use this stuff. My husband does a bit of this too. But not as bad. I have to say that is kinda bad. I feel for you. But it will get worse it won't get better. Say bye bye to your freezer. I believe it is just going to get further away.

[NbyNW]

I've got no wisdom to share re the hoarding, but I recently learned that some "architectural salvage" companies exist that might pay for these kinds of things. We are going to be renovating our kit/bath soon and my designer suggested that we might be able to sell some of our old cabinetry, appliances, fixtures, etc. to offset our overall project costs. So it is worth looking into.

Well, I did have an afterthought just now -- your DH may be justifying the hoarding in part by thinking he's being frugal and planning second lives for these items, rescuing them from landfills. Noble thoughts, except who knows when "someday" comes, and as you said, these items won't necessarily work in your home. Maybe you could appeal to those same noble thoughts with a different line of reasoning, e.g., these things are only useful when they are in the right place. And right now they are in limbo (your yard). They need to find homes of their own.

That said, I agree with the posters above who said some form of professional help might assist you in this process.

[Brandi]

I think maybe looking into listing some of these items on craig's list might be a good idea. Maybe start going through and putting these items out and taking a photo of them for listing. I bet there are a lot of people out there who these fixture's would work for. I don't think this is hording though. Is it in your house?

[grey]

Most times I make him go to the freezer for me. I'm tired of risking a bone every time. Last time I suggested he take a walkie-talkie in case he needed help getting out. He just rolled his eyes and sighed at me. Which I promptly returned.

He gets rather upset when I express my dislike for all the stuff, or that yes, I am afraid of breaking an ankle while trying to get to the deep freezer. The basement is only 5 feet high in most places, so that makes it pretty tricky. We have had a few disagreements over it all, I snapped that we look like an episode of Hoarders and he feels like I am just *itching or PMSing or trying to be a pest. He feels very put upon when I gripe about it, and really gets angry if I pile crap in the bed of the truck to be hauled to the dump – he felt that was REALLY rude of me to expect him to take a 5 minute detour one morning and haul it out (but it's always been ok if I toss empty boxes to go to the recycling section of the dump in there... go figure?)

I think it's a habit, and yes, frugality - we are both pretty frugal, he more than I (if it's quality and something we will use, I get it when the time is right, from the cheapest source possible). It's easier to just unload this crap off the truck post-job and let it accumulate, he thinks he may need it someday – and every once in a while, he does re-use something. But more often than not... it all just sits, falls victim to the Second Law of Thermodynamics /Entropy and drives me crazy.

I could simply put an item at a time on craigslist for my local area - but since most of it is way too heavy or large for me to move alone, I'd have to be letting total strangers help me load what they want from our house. Maybe I could beg a friend to help me pull a few items out every week. Would be a slow process, but it would all go!

The hard part is just convincing HIM to let me do it!

[OakLeaf]

Freecycle, Habitat or Goodwill if they take those kind of donations (some don't), or sell it all to an architectural salvage firm. I think selling it all piece by piece through Craigslist would probably be overwhelming to someone with those kind of issues ... being a little borderline there myself, I know I wouldn't be able to deal with something like that through CL.

Much better IMO to get rid of it all at once if possible - a lot of charities will send a truck and a couple of workers to pick it up, and I would expect the same for architectural salvage places - or give it away on Freecycle.

[indysteel]

Before gettting rid of any of it, especially if you're contemplating doing it against his wishes, I would really want to talk to a professional. Perhaps I'm wrong, but I'm under the impression that the anxiety that may cause to someone who is a hoarder or who has hoarding tendecies may ultimately just lead to even more hoarding. That's obviously not what you want.

I'm not a mental health professional. It does, however, seem to me that you husband is doing one of several things: First, he's seemingly lost sight of just how much you really have and, second, he's not hearing you when you say that the stuff is upsetting and dangerous to you. That sends up a few alarm bell me.

That said, if you really think there's nothing pathological or dysfunctional at play, then sell/get rid of the stuff.

[withm]

First of all, as a short term measure, can you move the freezer to a more accessible location?

For the long term, consider that getting rid of it all at once without the agony of selling one by one, dealing with prospective buyers, all for little gain is the way to go. Donate what you can to a thrift shop and take the tax deduction instead. The lifting of this burden will be immeasurable once it's done.

Much of the construction leftovers will really be of no use to anyone. It is illegal for a licensed contractor to install old toilets if they are not of the low-flush variety. Our local Habitat for Humanity will not take appliances that are more than a couple years old. You may find someone who will come and collect metals to sell for scrap. Or you can take it to a scrap metal dealer yourself.

If he can build a rack to store GOOD useable lumber, plywood, great. If it's stored neatly you'll be able to get to and use the pieces you need. If you have to spend a lot of time removing nails, screws, it may not be worth it to save.