Pam, I laughed when you said "people think you are mean when you expect a dog to behave."
Yeah, and they think the same thing with kids. Not being an animal person, I am betting it's the same phenomenon. People have difficulty being consistent when teaching skills.
I once removed the hand of a very close friend's daughter from something she was touching and told her "no," when she was about 2 and half or three. She started screaming and crying that I was "mean." I didn't hit her or even yell. But this kid had never been told no... she was an absolute monster because she had never been told no, and she ended up really messed up as an adult.
I would think that's what's going on when people think it's cute when their dogs jump.
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