Thanks gals. It's not like he does nothing around the place. We're both painting the house to prep it for going on the market. It's the day to day "tidying up" that he completely sucks at. We have a dog, and 2 cats. Kids aren't on the horizon, for reasons other than them taking after their father in the cleaning dept

I'm hoping when we move and he owns half the house, he'll care more. Currently I'm on the mortgage here and he pays me rent, but he doesn't own anything. Not that that excuses anything, but I'm hoping since I can't change him that his perspective will change. He told me it wasn't personal when I told him it reflected his respect for my feelings. I did my best to convey that it indeed was, even if he didn't think so. It's not the act, it could not be cleaning but something else that bothered me, but the fact that it bothers me doesn't phase him. And that was the issue that was making me so pissed.

Anyway, I have lots of suggestions. This by no means is a deal breaker to the relationship. I'm not perfect either so he puts up with my respective crap. And he's wonderful in most every other way. I just had to rant and knew you would lend a good ear and give some nice tips

As for the other stuff on the thread, I'm not getting involved there