I agree. May is too long to wait, if only for mental health reasons.

On the other hand, the fact that they feel that they can wait is a Good Sign. If they had wanted to see you that afternoon in order to schedule procedures the next morning, you'd have every right to freak out. (not that you don't now. . .)

I didn't do much with support groups, other than the wonderful people here and my family, so I can't help you much there. Of course, the support group offered me met on Tuesday nights, which is the night DH & I get on our bikes and go see a half-price movie. (Priorities, and all)

In any case, keep your chin up, vent in this general direction, and contact the surgeon's office on Monday. Let us know how it comes out.