Dear So and So

[bmccasland]

Now girls, play nice in the sandbox, or I'll have to put the training wheels back on your bikes.



Once the snow melts. I ain't go'in out in the snow. I'm a fair southern flower not used to these things.

[BleeckerSt_Girl]

Hey, she started it!

And yes, if I buy a brand new piece of clothing and have to wash it before I can wear it because some woman tried it on while wearing stinky perfume...then I sure as heck will post my annoyance on Dear So and So, just like everyone else who posts here about inconsiderate acts by co-workers, irritating relatives, etc etc. I think it's very inconsiderate to wear heavy perfume (or heavy makeup) when trying on clothes in a store.
No need for anyone to dole out a superior lecture.

But fine!

Speaking of snow...

Dear Next Door Neighbor who is spending her winter in her second home in sunny Florida,
Next time you hire someone sight unseen to plow your driveway, can you please instruct him about where your property line ends, so he doesn't plow all your snow 6 feet over onto our lawn, all 22" of blizzard snow, carving big gouges out of our grass and then pushing the 4 foot mounds of your snow INTO our two lovely spruce trees that we bought and planted way over on OUR lawn, breaking many lower branches in the process? What kind of moron plows and smashes 4 foot snow banks right into beautiful growing spruce trees in the middle of a lawn?

[bmccasland]

BleekerSt - I believe you summed it up properly... "moron." Hope your trees recover from the insult in the spring. How rude.

Least neighbor and "moron with snowplow" could rectify things. But not mangle anything else in the process. I have not-so-fond memories of shoveling out the driveway after the snowplow did the street when I lived in the upper part of the lower penninsula of Michigan.

[OakLeaf]

Sometimes when you get that much snow there's no way to remove it without damaging surrounding stuff, unless you hire a backhoe, a dump truck and a place to dump it... and give the hoe operator a GPS plot of everything that's under the snow. The time we had to hire a backhoe because plows couldn't handle our lane, they damaged the stairs to our garage deck. I doubt they even knew there was anything under all that snow. It'd be no different if you lived on a public road served by government plows...



... and if you read about some of the undisclosed chemicals that they use to treat fabrics, you'd wash them before wearing regardless of how they smell ...

[BleeckerSt_Girl]

Sometimes when you get that much snow there's no way to remove it without damaging surrounding stuff, unless you hire a backhoe, a dump truck and a place to dump it... and give the hoe operator a GPS plot of everything that's under the snow. The time we had to hire a backhoe because plows couldn't handle our lane, they damaged the stairs to our garage deck. I doubt they even knew there was anything under all that snow. It'd be no different if you lived on a public road served by government plows...

Your situation is very different from mine. I do live on a public road (county highway) and the 'govt plows' never use my lawn for dumping or damage my trees. Her driveway is clearly laid out and straight, it's been plowed for years with no problems- no backhoes or dump trucks needed. He chose to create a big new parking area for her on our lawn by bizarrely pushing all her driveway snow over onto our property, smashing it right into our 10 foot tall planted spruce trees that have nothing else anywhere around them (like seriously, who does that??). There is plenty of very obvious space on her property and along her two driveways for all the piles of snow you could ever possibly come up with. Sorry, but the plow guy is an idiot.
Update: My husband and I dug our trees out by hand yesterday, removing the solid packed 4 foot mounds of heavy wet snow, clearing broken branches out and unbending the branches that were doubled in on themselves but not yet snapped. We then bought some neon orange plastic snow fence and stakes and set up a marking fence along the property line so the plow guy wouldn't just do it all over again. There's no one at the house to talk to since the one inhabitant is spending her winter in her home in Florida and doesn't give out her number. So we solved the problem by putting up the temporary snow fence, but that doesn't make it any less upsetting about our trees having now been maimed. Or maybe I'm being unreasonable for not wanting my beautiful planted evergreen trees badly damaged for no good reason.

... and if you read about some of the undisclosed chemicals that they use to treat fabrics, you'd wash them before wearing regardless of how they smell ...

Actually, I wouldn't, and I especially never do with wool. I do know about fabric treatments, but thank you. I like to wash my good wool as little as possible, and I would like to have that choice when I buy something new. Second hand clothing is different of course, and I don't mind washing that first if it's needed. Got several great contra-dancing skirts last month at Goodwill for like $4.99 each- didn't need to wash them though, they didn't smell nasty.
Call me crazy, but I still prefer to not have someone else's heavy perfume saturating the new clothes i buy.

Am I being selfish and trivial and should I not be posting here in this Dear So and So thread? I know my complaints are not 'earth-shatteringly' important in the grand scheme of things, but they seem completely in keeping with many other people's posts in this thread. Can someone please enlighten me if mine don't belong here?- seriously, I'd like to know!

[mudmucker]

Am I being selfish and trivial and should I not be posting here in this Dear So and So thread? I know my complaints are not 'earth-shatteringly' important in the grand scheme of things, but they seem completely in keeping with many other people's posts in this thread. Can someone please enlighten me if mine don't belong here?- seriously, I'd like to know!

IMO, complain all you want. Everyone else does, trivial or not. You are in keeping with this thread. Sometimes people have a bad day. Sometimes people have really trying times and it's very hard to get pull a good mindframe out of that no matter how much there appears be thankful for. Sometimes on some days people take posts close to heart and are offended, hostile or not, or misinterpreted. I don't need to lecture on life lessons...it's a rhetorical question.

[kmehrzad]

And sometimes it just helps to get things 'off your chest' and vent, as in journaling.

[snapdragen]

Can someone please enlighten me if mine don't belong here?- seriously, I'd like to know!

Your complaints are just as valid as anyone else's on this forum.

//and I agree with you on the stinky perfume...

[OakLeaf]

I didn't mean to suggest your complaints (or anyone's) weren't valid - just sharing my POV. Sorry.

[limewave]

Your complaints are just as valid as anyone else's on this forum.

//and I agree with you on the stinky perfume...

My thoughts about posting in this thread:
When I know I'm overreacting for the situation but for some reason I just can't seem to let it go . . . I can type my complaint and ranting and raving in here instead of directing it at the person. Then its out and done. So, yes, I'm complaining. Is it valid, sometimes, sometimes not.

bcipam--Sorry to hear about your situation! No advice to offer, just sending hugs your way.

[SadieKate]

There's no one at the house to talk to since the one inhabitant is spending her winter in her home in Florida and doesn't give out her number. So we solved the problem by putting up the temporary snow fence, but that doesn't make it any less upsetting about our trees having now been maimed. Or maybe I'm being unreasonable for not wanting my beautiful planted evergreen trees badly damaged for no good reason.

If it happens again what about writing her since she probably has her mail forwarded? Include a copy of the city ordinance about where snow can be dumped. For instance, snow cannot be shoveled into the streets or alleys here (much to the consternation of our neighbors who think it is fine to create gigantic ice ridges that block everyone in their driveways). She is responsible for damage to your property caused by her contractors, and I'd think if she is a good neighbor at all she'd want to know sooner rather than later.

And, I'm with you on the wool garments. If I've bought a sweater that still has the lanolin in it, why would I wash it right away? Complain away. I'd like to outlaw candle and potpourri shops from all indoor malls.