Unreasonable to want to move after wreck?

[Melalvai]

Thanks for the responses. I've been thinking on it all week.

I guess I agree that the memory alone is not a strong enough reason to move, and I'm very encouraged to hear that it'll probably just be a road again to me some day. Today is not that day, someone honked at me at the same spot where the wreck occurred and I had a bad reaction whereas I normally shrug that kind of thing off.

The fact that the road is dangerous is definitely more of a consideration. There are a few things we dislike about the house (poor internet options, expensive propane heating), and I think this kind of tips the balance against all the thing we like about the house. I meant he doesn't feel the same way about the memories of the road, because (as he said) he didn't see it happen the way I did. I wouldn't call it marital strife...we have talked about it more extensively recently.

I did at one point start to look into talking to someone but I quickly got overwhelmed by the random names. I'd really have to ask someone I know to recommend someone, and, I don't know, I just don't feel like doing that yet. I would if I thought it was a problem, and I'm watchful all the time to see if it is. What makes me think it isn't is that I'm improving. For example driving around town was noticeably better after the vacation than before.

[Irulan]

Thanks for the responses. I've been thinking on it all week.

I guess I agree that the memory alone is not a strong enough reason to move, and I'm very encouraged to hear that it'll probably just be a road again to me some day. Today is not that day, someone honked at me at the same spot where the wreck occurred and I had a bad reaction whereas I normally shrug that kind of thing off.

The fact that the road is dangerous is definitely more of a consideration. There are a few things we dislike about the house (poor internet options, expensive propane heating), and I think this kind of tips the balance against all the thing we like about the house. I meant he doesn't feel the same way about the memories of the road, because (as he said) he didn't see it happen the way I did. I wouldn't call it marital strife...we have talked about it more extensively recently.

I did at one point start to look into talking to someone but I quickly got overwhelmed by the random names. I'd really have to ask someone I know to recommend someone, and, I don't know, I just don't feel like doing that yet. I would if I thought it was a problem, and I'm watchful all the time to see if it is. What makes me think it isn't is that I'm improving. For example driving around town was noticeably better after the vacation than before.

Your doc is always a good one to start with for a recommendation. There's nothing to be ashamed or embarrassed about in asking for professional help.

[malkin]

I'm sorry you are dealing with this.

I agree that talking to a professional could help. Other things might also be useful.

After a serious car wreck we performed a 'cleansing ritual' on the replacement car. This is totally kookie, but also perfect in a way.

The car I totalled was less than a month old; I rolled it on a snowy road in the middle of nowhere; we could have all been killed, but we were physically (mostly) ok. Having seen me roll off the road, another driver, a doctor, stopped to render assistance, but his only comment was, "Thanks for wearing your seatbelts."

The replacement car was the same make, model and color. In the crash, one bottle of homebrew mead smashed and goldfish crackers flew all over the interior. As a blessing for the new car, we tossed goldfish over it, sprinkled it with mead, cried, said nice things to each other, and couldn't believe our luck, both good and bad.

Hokey as it may be, it really seemed to help me move past the wreck.

Try anything.
Best wishes as you move through these feelings.