Dear So and So

[Becky]

Dear family member-

In some ways, I'm glad that we had our discussion yesterday. It confirmed for me that you're a bitter control freak who's clinging to apparently minor transgressions that I committed years ago and who is unable to forgive or forget anything. You're a master manipulator and had me promising all sorts of changes on my part with absolutely no willingness to give or compromise on yours.

Also, for the first time in 10 years, I got to experience what it must have been like to grow up in that household. It sucked, but it's going to make me a better wife in the long run 'cuz I get it now. (DH, I'm sorry! And thank you for being my partner in all of this.)

I've never intentionally cut a family member out of my life, and I cringe every time I think of the collateral damage that's going to occur, but you may very well be the first. Congratulations on a dubious honor. (BTW, I welcome advice on how to do this.)

Sincerely,
Emotionally exhausted and shattered.