What to do, what to do???

[indysteel]

Have a safe trip there and back. Hopefully, the rest of the issues will work themselves out. Try to be kind but firm with your mom with respect to where you stay. Don't let her bait you. That said, perhaps you could offer to spend one night with your parents after all the other houseguests are gone.

[tulip]

Cars always seem to need fixing when you least need the expense. But it's so much better than breaking down on your trip. Been there, done that.

I find it helpful in dealing with guilt trip people to try to understand that I am not responsible for their tripping of the guilt. They do that all by themselves. I try to listen respectfully, but rather objectively, and let them have their say. When they are finished, I smile, give them a hug, and go about my life as I need to. Perhaps this can help you in dealing with your mom. Staying one night with the parents might be a good bone to throw, but only you know.

Relax and enjoy your visit with the family!

[PamNY]

Hope you have a good visit. Family guilt trips are hard, especially around holidays. You sound like a thoughtful person and I'm sure you will handle everything well.