What to do, what to do???

[WindingRoad]

Got the car back today, had to have a new radiator. Apparently mine was cracked. Who knew? Cost me around $350 to fix it. They said other than that though it looks to be in good shape to take on the trip I wasn't prepared to spend that kind of money on it but the fact remains I can't ride my bike to clinic. Have to wear business clothes those days not to mention I don't really want to ride my bike through that neighborhood. It's a tad on the scary side. So fixing the car was unavoidable and necessary regardless of it being an extra cost. I plan to pack food and water for my drive home, it's amazing how much food on the Turnpike costs. And it's horrible food!

I tried to find a ride with someone but most people are either not nearly as far away as me or a whole lot further and they are flying. I emailed ALL of the students too, I even went so far as to ask they lady that opened my checking account because I remembered her husband was from Indianapolis. They are flying of course.

I am a bit worried about the way my mom will take me not staying with her and my dad. She's the queen of guilt trips sometimes. I can't be too hard on her though she's helping with the cost of fixing my car which I greatly appreciate. Thanks girls for being so understanding, you are all so awesome. I really needed some perspective and your responses have helped a lot. It's been a stressful first semester can you tell?

[indysteel]

Have a safe trip there and back. Hopefully, the rest of the issues will work themselves out. Try to be kind but firm with your mom with respect to where you stay. Don't let her bait you. That said, perhaps you could offer to spend one night with your parents after all the other houseguests are gone.

[tulip]

Cars always seem to need fixing when you least need the expense. But it's so much better than breaking down on your trip. Been there, done that.

I find it helpful in dealing with guilt trip people to try to understand that I am not responsible for their tripping of the guilt. They do that all by themselves. I try to listen respectfully, but rather objectively, and let them have their say. When they are finished, I smile, give them a hug, and go about my life as I need to. Perhaps this can help you in dealing with your mom. Staying one night with the parents might be a good bone to throw, but only you know.

Relax and enjoy your visit with the family!

[PamNY]

Hope you have a good visit. Family guilt trips are hard, especially around holidays. You sound like a thoughtful person and I'm sure you will handle everything well.