hmm. What I'm hearing is that the only reason why you would be friends with her now is because of guilt. Probably not the best reason to rekindle a friendship.

I came across a similar situation a few years ago. I was very good and close friends with a girl that I worked with. We both left the company. She eventually married and went into a different career and had children. We have really different lives, and while I enjoyed her company at that time in my life, we have nothing in common years later. When she called me out of the blue years later, she told me to keep in touch, but I never did.

This is primarily why I refuse to ever have a facebook account. Why in the world would I want to know people I lost touch with? we obviously didn't keep in touch for a reason.

Let me put it this way, if she was not making the effort, would you bother? I think the answer is no...