They know who attended - only five of us - and they know I'm the only one who would do that. So, it wouldn't be anonymous.

I guess there are problems about the death certificate - they want to see it & she won't give them a copy. It isn't public info in AZ. I suspect they want to know if the cause of death showed any kind of neglect on her part. When he got to the hospital, his fingernails were about an inch long, toenails about two inches (couldn't possibly wear shoes), was unbathed & generally in really bad shape. She had isolated him for the past several years, driving away his friends with her mouth. The whole thing is really sad and his children are not happy at all with her actions.

But, I'm really staying completely out of it. DH and I were probably their closest friends, and we had no idea. Apparently, he had several trips to the hospital that she never told us about, etc.