She sounds like me when I was that age. I turned out ok! And that determination sure helped a lot over the years.

But I was an absolute angel at school, and could be an absolute terror at home. Always in trouble, screaming, throwing things, whatever. A battle over something minute could escalate in a matter of seconds. And I KNEW when they were losing patience and were about to start screaming (or spanking) and I pushed it all the more, being well aware of the consequences.

I don't remember enough to be able to think of what would've worked instead though. I just know I had to win each and every battle, and that I had infinitely more time and energy than my overtaxed mother...and I was very aware of those circumstances. I also had a younger sister that mom had to watch, so 3 hours of throwing me in time out wouldn't have worked either.

Good luck. I outgrew it eventually, but I'm sure you'll find a quicker solution.