Saddle, shorts or lube?

[KnottedYet]

So...I think that means, from what you are saying, that my saddle is a big part of the problem. I'm going to run up to the lbs today and try a couple of new saddles with a cut out and without and more t-shaped.

Measure you sit bones before you go.

Going saddle shopping without even knowing the two basic spans of your ischial tuberosities is about as good an idea as randomly buying shoes without knowing what size your feet are.

Measure. Your. Bones.

Chances are very good that your size 14 butt hides a larger pelvis than your size 6 friend's perky little tush. And a larger pelvis than the "average" used for saddle design.

Cut-out or t-shape won't matter one bit if your ischial tuberosities are not COMPLETELY supported by the saddle AS YOU RIDE.

Measure. Your. Sit. Bones. First.

If you had much larger than average feet, would you expect to be able to wear your friend's size 6 shoes without any problems? Would you be trying different socks to make the fit better? Would you go for size 6 shoes with a cut-out (aka "sandals") hoping they would hurt less before you even considered measuring your feet?

Touching your own butt with a tape measure isn't a sin. We don't even take our clothes off to do it.

(touching random stranger's buns could get you into some trouble, however)

Size 14 is big. That's a big butt. I'm a size 16, so I can be honest here and tell you your butt is big. Your pelvis probably isn't little, either. (huge butts can have little sit bones and vice versa, but chances are good that you really need to measure because you might be outside the norm.)

Measure.
Your.
Sit bones.
Before.
You.
Spend.
More.
Money.