I did like suggested and just got back from a short ride in my normal athletic shorts (the kind you wear for running) and regular underwear. My labia/vulva were totally smooshed. They felt like they were being pushed to the sides becuase the seat was in the way. That led to burning, but no numbness. My sit bones still feel good. I have the beginning of a little chaffing on the lips but I didn't ride long enough for it to become actual chafing.

So...I think that means, from what you are saying, that my saddle is a big part of the problem. I'm going to run up to the lbs today and try a couple of new saddles with a cut out and without and more t-shaped.

I also tried keeping my back a little more rounded. The first time I rode I was aiming for board flat and the curve helped eliminate the shoulder blade pain. I think I was pushing my shoulders back the first time.

The spot between my thumb and index finger where it holds the hoods still feels sore, but I'm guessing that just needs time to adapt to the new bike.

Thanks everyone for the help.