Broken heart

[Bike Chick]

Same here. Break ups are tough and it hurts like heck when you are in the middle of it. Hang in there. Maybe the bike will keep you moving forward

[lph]

(((artifactos))) I know how you're feeling. You were given very good advice over here. I especially liked indysteels point that a break-up will hurt anyway, and you might as well be doing something you know is good for you at the same time. It may not be as therapeutic or soothing right now, but still riding is still going to be good for your body, and over time riding for yourself and your own reasons and your own goals will replace whatever goals you had together. If you don't, riding your bike will stay "his". For it to become "yours", you have to struggle through and accept the pain that comes with associating it with him for the time being.

Take care.

[ClockworkOrange]

Oh sweetie, massive hugs to you and lots of support.

There is a lot of good advice on here.

...............and remember ....well, not too often.

Hugs.

Clock

[Serotta Jim]

I have found the tri people in Cincinnati don't cross over a lot to the other races. If he is a tri guy you could shift over to Crits or TT and avoid him that way and still race.

If you want to ride with some other people you could check out Seven Hills - http://www.7hillsracing.com/ they seem like nice people.

Queen City Wheels also puts on the Ault Park Crits which are a lot of fun. http://www.qcw.org/index.php?option=...d=17&Itemid=22

Or there is the Cleves Time Trials - http://www.qcw.org/index.php?option=...&id=7&Itemid=9

The east side has a lot of rides and groups that head out into Indian Hill & beyond - check out Cinci cycle clubs site for locations.

[artifactos]

Thank you all. Really. You ladies are great. I wish my real life friends were as supportive - none of my friends have called me. I called a few of them yesterday and left teary voicemails, and I have yet to get return calls or messages. It makes me sadder to know that I'm losing the one person I COULD rely on when I needed support.

Serotta_Jim.. I think I'm going to continue with the Tri club for now. The now-ex was fine training on his own last year, and I THINK I can hold my own with the club if I have new people to talk to who weren't aware of our relationship. It will absolutely break my heart, though, if I hear someone ask if he is single. Maybe it's not a good idea after all.

I want to do multisport (even though I still suck hard at swimming), so I am aiming for duathlons at the moment.

[channlluv]

Hugs to you, first of all. Breakups are almost always painful.

If it were me, and I weren't already attached to that tri club, I'd switch clubs. You're only setting yourself up for a painful encounter if you see him with someone else - you've already mentioned it twice here. I think making a clean break of it and finding your own new club would do you good.

Be strong, and do keep doing the things that build your confidence.

Roxy

[artifactos]

The problem with finding a new club is that this one is the only one within a reasonable driving distance for me. He could easily join the Dayton club, but he didn't "like" them. There's one further down into Cincinnati, but this is already a 35 minute drive for me, and going to Dayton or Cincinnati would nearly double that. I don't know how else to find a training partner, though.

[Miranda]

I had something similiar happen before in my start of cycling. I am so sorry for your heart. But, here is one thing for you to wrap your mind around as a positive if you can...

All things do happen for a reason, and even though your relationship with the bf did not work out... his passion for cycling was a vehicle for you to find your way to the bike... like a hidden gift... a positive outcome from a situation that went negative.

Even if you did change clubs, there will always be something that reminds you of him cycling related. For me, eventhough time has passed, I still see it everywhere to a certain degree.

These things will sting the scar on your heart. But, it doesn't have to break your soul & passion of riding. It's just part of the history... but not the end of the story.

(((hugs)))
Miranda

[HermitGirl]

After riding for a few weeks you will begin to associate your bicyle with LIBERATION, and SELF DISCOVERY, and you will FIND JOY in the anticipation of WHO and WHAT is around the next metaphorical bend (I am telling this to myself as I write.). You (we) just have to get through these next couple of weeks. We can do this !!!! Not riding is not an option.