Broken heart

[PamNY]

No advice, just hugs and support. I know you'll find a way to continue to enjoy biking.

[Bike Chick]

Same here. Break ups are tough and it hurts like heck when you are in the middle of it. Hang in there. Maybe the bike will keep you moving forward

[lph]

(((artifactos))) I know how you're feeling. You were given very good advice over here. I especially liked indysteels point that a break-up will hurt anyway, and you might as well be doing something you know is good for you at the same time. It may not be as therapeutic or soothing right now, but still riding is still going to be good for your body, and over time riding for yourself and your own reasons and your own goals will replace whatever goals you had together. If you don't, riding your bike will stay "his". For it to become "yours", you have to struggle through and accept the pain that comes with associating it with him for the time being.

Take care.

[ClockworkOrange]

Oh sweetie, massive hugs to you and lots of support.

There is a lot of good advice on here.

...............and remember ....well, not too often.

Hugs.

Clock

[Serotta Jim]

I have found the tri people in Cincinnati don't cross over a lot to the other races. If he is a tri guy you could shift over to Crits or TT and avoid him that way and still race.

If you want to ride with some other people you could check out Seven Hills - http://www.7hillsracing.com/ they seem like nice people.

Queen City Wheels also puts on the Ault Park Crits which are a lot of fun. http://www.qcw.org/index.php?option=...d=17&Itemid=22

Or there is the Cleves Time Trials - http://www.qcw.org/index.php?option=...&id=7&Itemid=9

The east side has a lot of rides and groups that head out into Indian Hill & beyond - check out Cinci cycle clubs site for locations.

[artifactos]

Thank you all. Really. You ladies are great. I wish my real life friends were as supportive - none of my friends have called me. I called a few of them yesterday and left teary voicemails, and I have yet to get return calls or messages. It makes me sadder to know that I'm losing the one person I COULD rely on when I needed support.

Serotta_Jim.. I think I'm going to continue with the Tri club for now. The now-ex was fine training on his own last year, and I THINK I can hold my own with the club if I have new people to talk to who weren't aware of our relationship. It will absolutely break my heart, though, if I hear someone ask if he is single. Maybe it's not a good idea after all.

I want to do multisport (even though I still suck hard at swimming), so I am aiming for duathlons at the moment.

[channlluv]

Hugs to you, first of all. Breakups are almost always painful.

If it were me, and I weren't already attached to that tri club, I'd switch clubs. You're only setting yourself up for a painful encounter if you see him with someone else - you've already mentioned it twice here. I think making a clean break of it and finding your own new club would do you good.

Be strong, and do keep doing the things that build your confidence.

Roxy