Moms, childhood issues, and certified letters

[TrekTheKaty]

In the meantime it might help to examine carefully why this upsets you so. You know what to expect from your mother. Clearly she has not changed after what 30-40-50 years? By now you ought to be used to, if not immune, to her behavioral quirks an and just chalk it up to "my crazy mother."

I would have to respectfully disagree with this statement. In my personal situation, I am sure my stepmother could could dissolve the self esteem it took me 20 years to reestablish with a glance. I don't give her the opportunity.

I admire shootingstar for reaching out for support from her cyberfriends. If she was friend from my hometown, I would meet her for coffee, a hug and just to listen. She needs our support. I hope our suggestions haven't confused her even more, but what are sisters for?

[shootingstar]

I would have to respectfully disagree with this statement. In my personal situation, I am sure my stepmother could could dissolve the self esteem it took me 20 years to reestablish with a glance. I don't give her the opportunity.

I admire shootingstar for reaching out for support from her cyberfriends. If she was friend from my hometown, I would meet her for coffee, a hug and just to listen. She needs our support. I hope our suggestions haven't confused her even more, but what are sisters for?

Perhaps you meant bccmsland who originally asked for people's opinions/ideas? Not that myself and 5 siblings have problem with a mother who is quite controlling, on top of the linguistic gap..I just haven't bothered to get into details 'cause I really don't expect many people here to experience high family conflict due to linguistic gaps, on top of major personality weakness in a parent.

But it's ok. We'll survive..though we're worried now with my father having cancer..he the language intepreter, family mediator..etc. Certain things are better, other things not and never will be.
I'm not a mother and I question myself if i could have been a good mother. Honest.