Moms, childhood issues, and certified letters

[bmccasland]

Thanks everyone... I'm still mulling things over. For the next two days it's a moot point, as monday is a federal holiday, and tuesday is a local holiday - MARDI GRAS! This city is in full party mode, no mail delivery or open post offices until wednesday.

But I think that if she can't ask me directly, then I'm not going to play the game. She always was a passive-agressive one. She's the one I've learned it from, and over the years, I've learned to be more direct, less fustration in the long run.

sigh

[sgtiger]

((((((Beth))))))

I want to add my support. And whatever you choose to do I hope you honor yourself first.

I too have a complicated relationship with my mother, so I can understand the uncertainty and hesitation of engaging in a situation that may bring up unpleasant and painful memories. Personally I deal better with people who I can clearly see are trying to be a better person now than someone who constantly brings up the past to apologize or explain it away. For me, somehow, it feels like they are trying to trivialize the helplessness and hurt I experienced as a child, especially if their actions have not truly changed.

Soo