I'm sorry about your mother

How do I deal with someone who has been unhappy for most of my life? There are people that I've cut out of my life that are that way - I feel vaguely guilty about it, but I really don't have the emotional energy to deal with people that cause their own drama and/or misery when I have other family members that do have serious life-threatening medical problems that I have to help with. But, it is your mother and if you're not comfortable with just cutting her out of your life... I'd just say do your best not to get dragged into her drama or games (I realize that depression is a serious medical problem, so I really don't mean to minimize it by calling it drama)


If you really can't get off work easily to go get the letter, just tell your mother that, and tell her to mail you the letter non-certified when she gets it back after the 15 day period and you'll call her to talk it over with her. And you can send a copy to her therapist if you think it's warranted when you read it. That way you're not giving into her game, but are still at least being open to whatever dialog she's looking for.