Bicycle dates

[Yasmin]

I'm with a great guy, but we don't have much together time. Actually, our marriage is under threat & has been for a while. He has the job from hell & little time for anything or anyone else (including himself). He's a neurosurgeon & obviously you can't rest on your laurels with that kind of pressure. All n/surg spouses experience the same thing, but I'm finding it hard going & very lonely. I should say we've only been married 3 1/2 yrs...first marriage for both & together for 5 1/2 yrs. No kids on either side & no family support here. He's 53 & I'm 49. I don't know if it ever gets any easier. He bought a bike but fell off within the first week & received a 100% dislocation of his right acromio-clavicular joint (lumpy bit at end of collar bone). Too dangerous for him to try again. If my marriage ends I don't think I'll bother anymore. I find that guys don't accomodate very well, they always expect us to do the accommodating. This is my third long term attempt (1st & only marriage) & it's always been me upturning my world for the guy. So when it ends guess who has to start from scratch again?. I'm too old for all of this.
Disillusioned & sad. Y.