If he can scrap together the money to buy a Madone, he can pay rent. He needs to go. Set a date, Jan 15 sounds good. Tell him he has to find another place to live, another couch to sleep on, then have the landlord change the locks.
He's not going to move out under his own volition. Unfortunately you're going to have to force the issue. He'll try to linger as long as you'll let him. So you're going to have to be tough if you really want him out.
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12-25-2009, 06:18 AM #1
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Thanks for the great advice everyone! I will post an update when I make some progress with this.
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12-29-2009, 06:03 AM #3
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We had a talk last night and he is going to try to find something ASAP but I told him the end of the month was good enough.
I feel so drained from dealing with this!
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12-29-2009, 06:35 AM #4
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Talking is NOT easy or comfortable sometimes, so I'm glad you did it. Hopefully he'll be gone soon and you can move forward- without him. Hugs to you!!
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12-29-2009, 06:02 PM #5
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End of the month is in two days! Did you mean January? Because that's a LONG time in a situation like this. Maybe he can couch-surf his friend's places until he gets something solid.
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12-30-2009, 04:42 AM #6
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He has found a place and told me can be out by Jan 6th. It does leave me hanging a little bit financially but I dont want him to think I need him for anything so I told him it was good. Of course he was hoping I would ask him to stay and the resulting conversation had me up waay past my bed time.
But there is light at the end of the tunnel!!
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12-30-2009, 07:03 AM #7
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Whew! Hold him to it! What's half a mortgage payment to your peace of mind?
I have a few sons. They sometimes say "ya, I'm going to do that by Friday." and then don't do the actual preparation that I think is required to get "that" done (like packing? like doing your laundry? like acquiring a suitcase?). So, even though I try not to nag because men hate nagging, I do start to panic a little and end up asking how I can help get them prepared to get "that done by Friday." I think it's my right to do so, and you better keep on him until he does it. You could even offer to collect his stuff in a corner of the living room so he doesn't "forget" anything. Don't let him off the hook!
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12-30-2009, 08:35 AM #8
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That is a great idea. I will not let him off the hook. I am going to do a great big happy dance and run around my apartment nakkie when his out the door!
thanks again!
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