Don't feel bad...I peaked at 55 miles/week prior to my most recent marathon and I am just as squishy as ever. I am sure a small round tight butt is under that fluff somewhere! If I reigned-in the appetite I'm sure I could find it.
Yep, my saddle "issues" sound like yours. Just some tenderness around my sit bones when I first get on. Doesn't really bother me once I get going. I don't know if that's because the fun endorphins kick-in, or what.