Quote Originally Posted by Catriona View Post
He does mention every so often how a guy at work keeps telling him that you can't trust a woman that's losing weight, 'cause she's gonna dump you or cheat on you. 'cause apparently that guy's wife has done it to him about 6 times. And he does joke about whether or not I'm getting in shape so I can leave him.

But he's actually usually the one that upgrades my kayak, and tends to make sure I have a nicer one than his. And he's been quick to hand me his credit card if I find a really great deal on a bike on ebay. While telling me that I don't need it and that it won't make me faster. He of course had to eat those words 'cause the bike actually did make me faster. magically
Well, upgrading the kayak is good but that first part is kind of scary.

I think people find their identity from different mediums. It's "good" to have a protege but when that person might surpass you, then it's not so good? Dunno. I've been through those types of things before (on both sides, actually) and it is SO frustrating to try hard at something and introduce someone to what you do and to have them be better. It's also bad to be the one introduced to something and LOVE what it is and be better and have the other person resent you.

I'd say honesty is what's required. That and getting what it is you truly want. It's like cheap shoes. What's the point if you're only going to have to replace them in the very near future?