Quote Originally Posted by OakLeaf View Post
Healthy individuals in a healthy relationship will not "cheat"
But see the operative word is "healthy" in both cases. I think there are exceptions but there will be people who will cheat no matter how seemingly perfect their relationship is. I've seen proof of that. I also know that there are people who will not cheat, no matter how bad their relationship. I've seen proof of that too. It's not to say they meekly accept whatever's going on but they talk, go through counseling, separate, and then divorce. DH is in that category and one of the things I respect about him is he wouldn't even meet me in person (we have a mutual friend who introduced us) until his final court date for his divorce. He had one of the most hellish marriages I've ever heard of.

So, it is what it is. For OP though, I think if there is suspicion and a bit of proof, then go with your instinct. Mr. Silver had a good point about being overly "parental" (can't remember the exact phrase) because you can only control so much. He needs to talk to you and say exactly what's going on in his head. If your marriage is worth it to him, and I hope that it is, he will do what it takes to ensure you are able to communicate and have a trustful marriage.