doctorfrau, sounds like you had a good time, and that's really all that matters, actually. If the guy didn't, he's braindead. That sounds like the perfect date to me!

Funny, I started cycling with someone I was a bit in love with, and did it because she loved it and I wanted to experience what she loved. Well, she won't go for rides with me anymore because she can't keep up (our last ride together made that clear); she won't talk to me at all anymore because I finally told her how I felt about her. What I got out of it? This amazing sport/obsession/anti-depressant that has changed my life.

Think I got the better end of the deal.

Keep cycling, keep dating, keep having a great time despite people who can't or won't. ...