Indigoiis, I love that bit written by that Barry guy! I'm such an 'Elaine' it isn't funny!

Communication is something I'm REALLY working on, and it's not easy for me. This thread is really hard to read for that reason, seeing all sides and everyone has a point! How much do you cut the hubby some slack and when IS it a big enough deal to bring up to talk about it? What happens when logically you know and understand his actions, and it's not a big deal like Tuckerville posted, but if it bothers her and makes her angry, then why isn't it a BIG DEAL with caps? Do you go by situation or emotions to grade the importance to 'work it out' with your spouse and spend the energy and time to hash it out?

Hugs to all of you that are going through heartache, in such difficult times.