{{{{AET}}} What a hard post that had to have been for you to write. Thank you so much for sharing with us and know that you and yours are in my thoughts. Please feel free to come here as often as needed/possible - we're here for you!
Life should NOT be a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in an attractive and well preserved body, but rather to skid in sideways, champagne in one hand, strawberries in the other, body thoroughly used up, totally worn out and screaming: "Yeah Baby! What a Ride!"