Hugs to all three of you from me too.

The first year we were married, (33 years ago) I had to give DH some serious lessons in apologizing. He didn't think it was necessary, or didn't want to admit that much fault, or something. I insisted that he apologize for problems. The one I specifically remember was him coming home hours later than expected. He thought the explanation of what he had been doing was enough, no apology needed. Wrong. So then he knew that he was supposed to apologize when he messed up, but he'd say something like, "I'm sorry you got upset about it." Arrrrgghhh! That was even worse, because it seemed to be putting the blame on me. It took several lessons, plus some modeling on my part, but eventually he started getting it right, and now we can laugh about it. He would never buy a truck without getting to consensus, though. That's a whole nother situation, and I agree it needs some professional help.