Bad husband! No nookie!

[shootingstar]

I'm not saying that he's 100% smelling like a rose, but that communication is VERY important. Tell him what you REALLY mean. and if he doesn't like it, fine, but at least you gave him the right message.

Unless Tuckerville changed her mind that she needed help /ride after all mid-way through her walk home..

When I tell dearie to buzz off or I really need his help, he responds accordingly (whatever his response he chooses), the words I say to him. In fact, I have a style of talking to any loved one (meaning other family members), in short phrases and assume that the other person will understand/be able to complete my incomplete instructions. That's great for creative/poetic people, but not for my dearie who thinks abit differently than I.

Occasionally he gets annoyed me and asks me:" Tell me exactly what you are trying to say"..which means I must tell him what I am thinking/feeling and what I would like him to do.

He wouldn't cycle back to check on me, walking homeward. (remember we don't have a car. )

But he does cycle around in circles ahead of me, if I'm doing a bike ride with him and I'm way behind.

[indysteel]

Tuckerville, I'm sorry you and your DH had a fight. As for the IT band stuff, have you considered whether your crank is to blame? My Campy triple caused me to have IT band issues in my right leg. Its q-factor (a fancy name for its width), was too wide for me. I switched to a compact on my new bike and, voila, no IT band issues. Just a thought. It's a fit issue for a lot of women that I don't think gets much press.

Limewave, I am really sorry about what you're going through. It sounds like you and your husband have some signficant trust issues to work on. Have you considered couple's counseling?