Bicycle dates

[Irulan]

married chiming in here. We've always done sports together.

I do see partnerships where one does, the other doesn't and there's more work involved in maintaining the relationship.... less time together, sometimes different fitness levels etc.

I agree that the bike dating is a good first filter.You are going to have to weed out the jerks and the dorks no matter what you do. Does your local cycle club do singles rides? I have heard of that, that to me sounds like fun.

Irulan.

[Trekhawk]

Another married one here. My husband and I have always done some sort of sport together from rock climbing (when younger) to hiking and swimming. Some sports though we have enjoyed on our own. My husband likes diving (scuba) but Im afraid it just not my cup of tea so he accepts that. When we first met I rowed in a womens four and he would come and watch us train and race. He always seemed very proud of me and it was never an issue even though it was something he himself was not interested in taking up.

My husband has been cycling for about 5 years and I took it up originally this year because I thought it would be something we could do together. Well it hasn't really worked out that way we have three little boys so riding together has not happened yet but what has happened is I have fallen in love with cycling. We still talk our rides over together and set goals together but I have realized now that I would ride even if my husband didnt and he would be supportive Im sure as he has been with all my other endeavours.

I guess what Im trying to say is that a partner does not need to always have a passion for the same things you do but they must be supportive and proud of you for what you have achieved. Plus a sense of humour in a man never hurts - being able to make you laugh at life and yourself is a big help in todays world.

[wavedancer]

I met my SO in a club, doing what we both love to do (kayaking). It was a great way to share something that we both are quite passionate about and enjoy our passion for each other, too He was also into cycling and encouraged me to get a bike and so added another passion to our lives. My love of cycling has continued to grow...as has our love. We are very different in many ways and having some strongly opposing political views, but being able to share the things that we love doing has made for a wonderfully rich life together.

I never tried the on-line dating or personals, so I can't speak to that, but perhaps the cycling club would allow you to meet some guys/potential dates who have a similar level of committment to the sport. You may not always ride together, but it certainly is fun to share the interest and excitement together.

Good luck in finding that special someone!

[cindysue]

I guess what Im trying to say is that a partner does not need to always have a passion for the same things you do but they must be supportive and proud of you for what you have achieved. Plus a sense of humour in a man never hurts - being able to make you laugh at life and yourself is a big help in todays world.

YES YES YES! ALL so very important! Thanks TrekHawk!

doctorfrau,

ONLINE Dating: Don't give up - I've met plenty of great guys online where one of the major criteria was biking. Maybe spend a little more time chatting online before meeting - you might be able to weed out the pretenses.......


I met my SO online. I was definitely drawn to the fact that he is so active. While we both like cycling, he's more into MTB, me road, but he will come out with me so we spend that time together - and i will go out with him on some of the stuff he loves to do (haven't yet tried MTB but must).

So the thing that makes him so special is not all that we have in common - although it sure is GREAT! - It's that he genuinely cares about, and supports, my interests and life goals. He also has a great sense of humor - which is huge in my life - because I am constantly stressed between school, two jobs, organzing a cycling team, yadda yadda yadda...... He's also the first guy to get me to open up - and we are so much closer for it.

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[KSH]

I guess what Im trying to say is that a partner does not need to always have a passion for the same things you do but they must be supportive and proud of you for what you have achieved. Plus a sense of humour in a man never hurts - being able to make you laugh at life and yourself is a big help in todays world.

That's the truth. I know I am very fickle about hobbies and if I only dated someone who would do what I do... such as triathlons... SCUBA diving... etc... etc... I would have had a new man every year!

As far as cycling for the first date. It's a great idea if you really want someone who is into cycling... and fit. If those are not that important to you... then it could be rather bad.

Some guys are very competitive... well... most of them... and riding with you... and if you are better... makes the first date kind of uncomfortable... ya know?

Oh well... best of luck!