sad.. just need to vent!

**shootingstar** · 08-13-2009, 05:28 PM

I'm sorry to hear about this. It's going to be tough living with him for awhile, considering this is break-up time too.

Got any local friends who are willing to rent out for awhile?

**ehirsch83** · 08-13-2009, 05:32 PM

Thanks girls!
The problem is, I have also been so involved with training and work up until now that I blew off most of my friends. It seems my close friends all live in other states or they live with roommates with no room for me.

Oh well, maybe I will use this time to just move elsewhere, I don't love south florida and I miss Boulder,CO. I have nothing holding me here now!

I could go to Boulder or to Albuquerque, or even San Fran.

hmmm so many options to change my life now.

**redrhodie** · 08-13-2009, 05:36 PM

I'm so amazed by your ability to think of the new possibilities coming your way! You're going to get through this, and be stronger from it.

**Mr. Bloom** · 08-13-2009, 05:59 PM

E: This really stinks and I'm sorry for what happened.

This guy is having an affair...with himself, his dream, his addiction. It's no different than alcoholism or a romantic affair, but it's more sinister because it has the appearance of being "healthy and constructive" because it's competitive and exercise...and what's more healthy than that? But you found it out before it's too late...and once he got past this obsession, there would be another, and then another.

I don't want to minimize the pain, because it's genuine. But, there is a bright side that you've already found - you're not encumbered by job or relationship, and you're not happy where you are...you are free to pursue what you want.

I think that somewhere beyond the pain, there's a whole new world opening up for you!

**malaholic** · 08-13-2009, 06:03 PM

Oooh, Boulder...I interned there for a few summers while in college & I love it. Sounds like a great place to make a fresh start.

I'm sorry that all this is happening. I'm sure you're going to end up in a better place for you and with a better person for you, but I know it'll hurt for a while (been there, done that!). Make sure that during this transition that you take care of yourself & your needs first. Him wanting to keep your friendship is nice and all, but if you find it painful to be around him, then find a way to keep your distance and don't worry if losing your friendship hurts him - you need to take care of yourself first. I'm not sure what your options are regarding moving out, but I'm sure you'll be able to find somewhere else to stay for the time being. Or even ask him to go stay with his friends/family for a while.

And if you get feeling lonely, keep reminding yourself of all the times you've had to clean up his dirty dishes or pick his dirty socks off the floor, and allow yourself to be a little glad that you don't have to deal with that anymore!

**solobiker** · 08-13-2009, 06:24 PM

I am so sorry. I am sending you a hug right now.

**pfunk12** · 08-13-2009, 06:32 PM

I'm sorry to hear about your pain, Emily, but as they say "time heals all wounds". It hurts now but it will get easier with time. It sounds as if you are already starting to think optimistically about this situation and it can become a positive life changer for you (a move to a new fantastic city). Take care of yourself. Hugs.

**OakLeaf** · 08-13-2009, 06:43 PM

((((((((Emily))))))))

I'm so sorry to hear that. Take care of yourself.

**NoNo** · 08-13-2009, 06:30 PM

Ugh, that just sucks. You're entitled to several days of laying in bed, or doing whatever else you feel like. I can't imagine having to live with him. As was suggested, can you stay with your dad for a bit? Hell, I'd rent a hotel before I stayed with that guy. I'm amazed at your ability to see the silver lining at this point, I think you're a much stronger person than I am.

**salsabike** · 08-13-2009, 05:55 PM

Originally Posted by ehirsch83

Thanks girls!
The problem is, I have also been so involved with training and work up until now that I blew off most of my friends. It seems my close friends all live in other states or they live with roommates with no room for me.

Oh well, maybe I will use this time to just move elsewhere, I don't love south florida and I miss Boulder,CO. I have nothing holding me here now!

I could go to Boulder or to Albuquerque, or even San Fran.

hmmm so many options to change my life now.

Ah, Emily. I'm sorry. It's hard stuff.

Why not come visit Seattle and see if you like THAT? A bunch of us would take you out to dinner or for a ride.

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