Girls, I need your help! Emergency...

[BleeckerSt_Girl]

Celerystalks-
Don't you have any friends, family, therapists, or other advisers to help you with your lost love issue? After all, none of us knows you or knows the whole situation. We can spout off all our massive collection of accumulated advice about relationships (and most of us women just LOVE to do that) but since we know little to nothing about the real people involved, it is all merely speculative.
Frankly, I simply can't imagine myself going to an online men's cycling forum to ask for romance advice, so my red flag goes up here. But my point is really that I think you could get much more relevant and helpful input from people who know you. I do sympathize with anyone going through love pains.

But I think there's a lot going on here that we don't know about.



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[Irulan]

Celerystalks-
Don't you have any friends, family, therapists, or other advisers to help you with your lost love issue? After all, none of us knows you or knows the whole situation. We can spout off all our massive collection of accumulated advice about relationships (and most of us women just LOVE to do that) but since we know little to nothing about the real people involved, it is all merely speculative.
Frankly, I simply can't imagine myself going to an online men's cycling forum to ask for romance advice, so my red flag goes up here. But my point is really that I think you could get much more relevant and helpful input from people who know you. I do sympathize with anyone going through love pains.

But I think there's a lot going on here that we don't know about.


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Werd. I've never quite understood guys coming into women's boards (it happens elsewhere) and looking for relationship advice.

[Irulan]

Like I said.

a men's forum would say

"get drunk, get laid, get over it'

Anyone been for a ride lately?

[GLC1968]

Wow, I come back to get an update and I see what this thread had devolved into...not pretty.

So what if this person has a habit of asking for advice on the internet? Plenty of people do because it is anonymous. I don't see that there is anything wrong with that. It's better than dumping your problems on a bartender!

Celery - I'm sorry that you are in pain, but as my mother always (annoyingly) says "this too shall pass". She's usually right, too.

FWIW, I think you did the right thing.

[celerystalksme]

well, whatever...what's done is done. i thank those with honest advice, whether it was harsh or not. and i'm sorry to everyone i upset in some way with this thread.

surprisingly, the attacks on my character or sincerity from some of you have sobered me up quite a bit. instead of moping, i'm in WTF defensive mode! lol

i'm sure everything will be fine. time heals these wounds. this one might just take a minute or two longer.

celery, out!

[Selkie]

Wow, I come back to get an update and I see what this thread had devolved into...not pretty.

So what if this person has a habit of asking for advice on the internet? Plenty of people do because it is anonymous. I don't see that there is anything wrong with that. It's better than dumping your problems on a bartender!

Celery - I'm sorry that you are in pain, but as my mother always (annoyingly) says "this too shall pass". She's usually right, too.

FWIW, I think you did the right thing.

I agree.

I don't understand why anyone would "research" Celery to find out if he's a troll. Hasn't he contributed to this forum in a non-threatening way? Is he sending anyone creepy PMs?

I'm not sure why this has turned ugly. If you don't want to contribute in a kind way, just don't post for Chrissake. Put the thread on ignore.

[Selkie]

As I said, has the OP sent creepy PMs? Has anyone reported the OP to the admins for harassing anyone here? Nothing he said sounds as if he's hunting for a new girlfriend here. This wasn't his first post on this forum.

How do you know it's the "ugly truth" Zen? Have you been trained in discourse analysis? I have taken a course on it, by the way.

As I said before, if you cannot be kind, put the thread on ignore.

[deedolce]

I've just read through the thread, and I have to say, the spin down has been pretty ugly~ and the OP isn't the one that looks bad!

I'm glad your ex knows the truth, that you did love her. That alone can be healing, since from her perspective, that may not have been the case, from what I could gather from your post. I think it's a great gift for you to give to her!

I'm in the belief that only truth can start a true healing process, otherwise things fester, and don't let you move on. I should know!

You also sound like the kind of guy that has learned from his past relationships~ which bodes well for future ones! Good luck.

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True, I know nothing of other forums, but I know we've had some of us also start threads of a personal nature, in the non-cycling thread, and it wasn't a problem, and the viewpoint of women here were great! Supportive, reasonable, well-thought out, and it made me think, 'man, when I have an issue, I'm going to ask here! These women are so cool, and wise to boot!' ... now I guess not.

[GLC1968]

Remember when he continued to "spare us the details?" the details are rather um, not what you and I really want to know about a stranger that posts on an internet forum.

This is a bike forum.

But he did spare us the details. If you choose to dig for them elsewhere, that has no bearing on his behaviour here, does it?

And while yes, this is a bike forum, we still talk about non-bike stuff...particularly in the 'open topic (non-cycling) forum'. His questions have as much right to be here as the thread about gardening.

If he'd been a woman asking the same questions, would anyone have questioned it?